Decisions, Decisions . . . Why you always have more options than you think . . .
I think sometimes we think the way that we are doing things is the only way. You can’t always see the wood for the trees. Its not. You have more options than you think. You are in charge of creating and designing the life of your dreams.
It’s quite simple really. If something isn’t working for you you have options and the ability to change things for the better. You have the right to create space for a life rooted in comfort, ease, softness, quality and intention and do you know what it would really look good on you too.
Let me give you some of your options below so that you know there are many different paths you can take when standing at a crossroads. Let me do the hard part so you can choose the healthiest path for you and you alone.
You can accept that your life is the way it is and perhaps your needs go unmet. Sometimes in accepting that you can find peace, happiness and a way to move forward mentally. It can be empowering to know that this is now a choice; you are going to make the best of it and you’re going to stay in whatever the decision might be.
You compromise and therefore find a way of being okay with that route. If you do decide to compromise you have to find a way around things so that it brings you peace and not resentment or frustration. You also have to practice being fair to yourself and the other person/situation you are navigating. Get creative with it. You may surprise yourself and be happier with the end result than you initially thought.
Third option is giving something time. Things may not be the way you want them to be right now but it doesn’t mean that you can’t revisit in the future. I think if we always do things with love and fairness in our hearts and minds often we get where we want to be. Speak it with love speak it with kindness speak with well intended boundaries. Don’t let the internet rush you or other peoples paths or opinions rush you. Go at your own pace and a pace that brings you peace.
The last option is to leave the person or situation if you need to. Accept this option if you are not happy, if you are finding it impossible to compromise, or if you revisit, and it’s still not working. It is very empowering to choose yourself and to walk away and find another option entirely. Know that you owe it to yourself to step away when you no longer feel valued or indeed understood. There are always more tables and more people willing to sit with you. Always go where the love is.
There is nothing wrong in starting over. It doesn’t for a minute mean that you are behind, your journey is just different to others. Take all the shots. Take the risk as you owe it to yourself to pursue something new and entertain the possibility of getting exactly what you’re hoping for.
The reality check is that you are in charge of your life and creating the life of your dreams. Building something that we really need to be proud of daily takes time and work. It’s okay to choose you and let go of the things or people that are holding you back. You are allowed to change your mind, put yourself first and outgrow situations and people. It is also essential you rest, speak up and be proud of yourself. Whatever you’re facing today, you’ve got this and it will all be ok in the end.