Your energy is the biggest currency you have. Having an abundance or lack of energy can seriously affect how you live your life. From your physical and mental health to the way you show up in all your relationships. It can be the difference between maximising opportunities and letting them pass you by because you simply don’t have the capacity.

Three years ago I contracted a dibilitating virus called Guillain Barre and was told I probably wouldn’t walk again. Within two days, out of the blue, I was paralysed from the knees and elbows down and it was spreading fast with a risk of it spreading to my lungs, my eyesight - basically everything vital to the human body.

My mum was told to fetch my daughter to see me while I was still functioning and ‘normal’ and to expect the very worst. Something that still breaks my heart for her, but not for me. Because even in the darkest moments I always knew I would be fine. How?

Are we becoming a society of false positive bots, conditioned to find the false joy or silver lining in every dire situation? Toxic positivity is the extreme reaction to negativity that is neither helpful or kind.

We as a society have never as before been so mindful of positive mindsets and manifestation. We recharge our crystals, we talk about energy, chakras and authenticity with great authority but have we lost our ability to just take something for what it is. How refreshing it can be to have someone really listen and agree ‘yes, that’s so hard for you.’ Not offer advice, not try and compare it to something they’ve once experienced, or to suggest ways in which it could be worse so therefore you should be ‘grateful.’

They say that we are the sum of the 5 people we spend most time with. The people we hang out with, the people we speak to on a daily basis, the people we share our most innermost thoughts and dreams with. When you look at your famous five are you happy with the energy you are immersing yourself in? Or are there changes that you need to make?

My biggest wish for you is that you emerge like a butterfly in the next couple of months, as we dance through and then close down the beautiful month of spring. This is going to be an opportunity to really stand in your power, acknowledging how far you’ve come and be really proud of all the efforts you’ve put into your life despite the trials you’ve been through. It’s time to acknowledge all that you are and all that you will be. As I set this intention and you read it on this screen, and so it shall be.

Why do we give our power away? Is it shrinking ourselves and our light to make others feel more comfortable around us? Is it a moment in our conscious where our inner critic jumps in, triggers us and we react accordingly? Is it a particular relationship with patterns you find hard to break? Have you got that one friend you always say yes to when you really want to say no, or do you allow your partner to put you down in way that you would never accept from somebody else?

When you consider all the women in your life, I’m guessing the age range of the sisterhood will be broad ranging and important to you and every stage requires thought and appreciation when it comes to hormones.

The hormonal changes our mothers weathered without much complaint, and without much information. The time you were heavily pregnant attempting the food shop or the commute on the tube when you just wanted to curl up. The teenage girl with bad hair dye and questionable make up choices experiencing crippling period pain that also seemed to bring a flurry of self-doubt and self-consciousness.

Is your current life your favourite worn in cashmere or are you looking for new material?

Sometimes life can feel ever so comfortable. Comfortable lounge wear, comfortable slippers that your great aunt Doreen bought you in 2007, comfortable job - you know how everyone takes their tea AND their menstrual cycle, comfortable friends that you tag in from nursery pictures (you’re 43) and comfortable missionary sex with a partner that feels like a flat mate. It all sounds so cosy. Maseltov

I know only too well the pressure that clients put on themselves to perform miraculous transformations within their personal and professional lives once we find ourselves in the new year. While I welcome self-improvement and the need to set and reach our goals, I also encourage balance and healthy expectations – which leads me to ask, ‘are you being kind to yourself?’

As the year rolls to close, I am asking my clients what were their wins from 2021 and what will they be focusing on and manifesting in the year to come? While it’s hard to imagine any positive news coming out of 2021, there will be personal wins for us all, and even in the perceived fails, there will be learning and new paths for the future. This is where we learn, and this is where we grow. This, people, is so much more than your Instagram top nine . . .